DEAL WITH IT!

DEAL WITH IT!


(A LETTER TO “ONCE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE”)

Dearest,

Surprised I am still calling you that? Well do not think of me BAD, do not think of me wicked; but I have to do this….
I might as well go straight to the point and stop getting confused myself as to where to start from.
I know by now the female instinct in you has figured it out already…
I CAN’T DO THIS ANYMORE! THIS RELATIONSHIP WOULD HURT US, MORE ESPECIALLY YOU.
Stop trying too hard to solve a problem that has ONLY ONE SOLUTION!
I wouldn’t say let’s breakup for a while, frankly I think that is mockery of each other when both partners know it would only take “some divine eye” to make that happen.
We need this breakup, well I NEED THIS BREAKUP!
DO NOT CRY OVER ME, AM DEFINITELY NOT DEAD YET!
DO NOT CURSE ME; GOD KNOWS I AM DOING YOU AND MYSELF THE FAVOUR!
RATHER, A LITTLE GRATIFICATION AFTER THE HURT BECAUSE I WASN’T A HYPOCRATE!
I AM JUST NOT INTO YOU ANYMORE! TRY DEALING WITH IT!
I AM DEALING WITH IT!
…..used to love you Brain Turff

Interesting letter huh? My favorite part? DEAL WITH IT!
My question (as u know by now I like to ask questions) is really HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH IT?
Forget the “by the author/book prescription” of DEALING WITH IT! Truth be told some of us both male and female never DEAL WITH IT, we rather condition our minds that “oh yes, we are better off without the heartbreakers.
And indeed We are better off without them, that’s for sure but WE ARE ALSO BETTER OFF DEALING WITH THOSE EMOTIONS RATHER THAN SHOVING IT OFF ON THE DENIAL SHELF thinking and singing “AM A SURVIVOR”.
OH YES! YOU WOULD SURVIVE AT LEAST FOR A WHILE AND THEN BREAK DOWN AGAIN! What name then do u give to that? Because you would have lost the “destiny’s child lead singer for that song; I AM A SURVIVOR lol.
Ok no teasing, but seriously, cast your mind back and ask yourselves as you read this “DID I EVER DEAL WITH IT?”
I think we hardly do, I DARE SAY WE NEVER DO DEAL WITH IT!
Rather we walk around with the am a survivor attitude and hurt the next man or woman who comes our way without even giving them the chance to do right by US. Thing is we are TOO EMBITTERED!
YES SHE LEFT YOU! AND OFCOURSE HE LEFT YOU! DEAL WITH IT. CONFRONT YOUR PAIN, CRY IF YOU HAVE TO (suicide would mean he or she was so right to have left you TRUST ME!).
HAVE SEX IF YOU HAVE TO (Lord knows we humans have different ways of letting off steam)
But after the tears, like the rain or the storm; the SUN WOULD NEVER STAY HIDDEN IN THE CLOUDS!
Then FORGIVE YOURSELVE, BECAUSE SURELY AT A CERTAIN STAGE OF DEALING WITH IT YOU PLAY THE BLAME GAME!
FORGIVE YOURSELVE, YOU WON’T BE THE LAST TO BE DUMPED that’s for sure.
For me; I think FORGIVING YOURSELVE IS PARAMOUNT! THEN DEAL WITH THE FACT OF BEING LONELY ONLY BUT FOR SOMETIME AND INDULGE WITH FRIENDS!
I AM NOT PRESCRIBING ANYTHING…
ALL I AM SAYING IS THAT “YES HE LEFT YOU! YES SHE DUMPED YOU”, YOU WON’T BE THE LAST!
AND SWEETY; STOP BEING A WHIMP YOUR LIFETIME.
DEAL WITH IT!
TELL ME AM LYING… 