Tuesday, August 31, 2010


I have a dream, I have a dream; a dream about you and me, a dream full of possibilities, a dream about our strength and weaknesses, our smiles and tears, our pain and our gains, our failures and victories, our regrets and nostalgias, that our experiences; good and bad shall be remembered.
That whatever brought you and I to this point, shall be filled with no regrets, shall be filled with nostalgia reminiscent of the good things.
That after every phase of our mourning, or grieve, time becomes an ally, rather than a foe.
That our weaknesses are not made to override our strengths, that our opportunities are not missed by our threats and fears of the unknown, that we do not allow our fears to take over the minutest of opportunities to show our powerful measure.
I have had a dream; I have had this pregnant thought, of everything good and fancy, who wouldn’t want a life full of candy.
I have had this dream, that you and I would be a team, that you and I would live this conception of building all the “glossy” wonderful intentions.
I lived with this dream, though very short, I lived this dream and I still live this dream of what we once shared, a dream contained with “what if’s, what not’s and what could have been”.
I hear from far and near that “if wishes were horses, beggars would in fact FLY”, well I would say “IF TIME WERE A HUMAN BEING I WOULD BEG TO BE A FRIEND”….
But it is only in my dream that time becomes my friend, it is only in my dream that time is an ally, it is only in my dreams that time would go back to when it was all not a dream…..
I have a dream and I have a reality, I have a dream but my reality falls at its distance, my emotions float with sweetness in my dreams. And my reality, I wish away even in my dream; for it is only in my dream that time is an ally…..
You Inspired this FIIFI….
My name is LAURA and I share thoughts and emotions on this Blog…

Wednesday, August 25, 2010


UNREQUITED! Heard the word before? Well I guess giving the dictionary meaning to the word would be boring and then again my blog is so not for classroom lessons but “street knowledge, common sense, and a place to share your emotions and your thoughts on how you feel, how you felt, and all the emotional hurdles and of course share your emotional experience, if you want an opinion; I would be glad to give or better still we would all be glad to give opinions, but anyway enough of that.
As I retorted earlier, Unrequited could basically mean “Unanswered, Unreturned” etc.
Imagine showing care and love, time and money, body and all to someone and getting nothing in return? Imagine even not getting a mere thank you for something you went at lengths to do for a friend, your mother or your dad or your siblings or even a stranger, you wonder why the person did not show appreciation obviously by saying thank you!
So imagine getting the same treatment with the Man you love or the Woman you love? Trust me, that’s a road that is painful of course because emotions are involved. It always gets twisted and painful when your emotions are involved. I have been there before and for a passionate person like me; the more I felt unappreciated for the little things I did, the little efforts I put into making the little moments my partner and I had moments to remember; the more I got bitter and the more I saw myself hating him.
But mine we would certainly talk about; remember the Romeo and Juliet story? What people have forgotten is that the story in the beginning actually talks about Romeo’s first love Roslyn, it further talks of the love from Roslyn being UNREQUITTED, and the effects which I would presume were drastic.
I guess Roslyn and Romeo’s issue has been forgotten often because it made no news right? The thing is that quite a lot of the unrequited issues in relationships never become an issue; maybe to the receiver it isn’t, because he\she would not appreciate it, it is only news to the giver but the pain sips slowly to the bowels of the soul, saliently waiting to pop up every now and then.
The little experience I have, had taught me that it is one thing not to be APPRECIATED; but its another Not to LOVE YOURSELF OR HAVE “SELF APPRECIATION”.
Now maybe the premise most people in love work with is that “if I do this, I’ll get this in return or more specific I would be loved more”. So what if you are not? Yeah; raise the eyebrow but it is typically in most cases. It is either we have high expectations, or we are of the belief that what we are doing would change something in the relationship or how the person feels about you.
Hallelujah to those who get that; but 99% DON’T!
My point is that whiles you day dream about the smiles and the “I love you” you would get or even the thank you, think also about what if I DON’T GET ANYTHING AT AL? OR WHAT IF THINGS DON’T GO THE WAY I HAVE PLANNED?
Many of us fear the eminent, whiles others the unknown, though generally it’s a case of fearing the unknown sometimes we also fear what our instincts feel or what our “third eye” sees and that is not the nicest feeling. A friend and loved one who indeed has inspired a lot of the experiences (good and bad) with whom I have had the most amazing relationship and have gone through my life’s most bitter experiences too; once told me that “this life is all about perspectives” and really our perspectives change the way we think, the way we relate to people etc maybe your experiences may change the way you think or behave but your foundation i.e. your perspective should be positive enough to transcend the other aspects of your life.
My point here people is that contrary to the saying that we are what we eat; we are more in a lot of ways what we think than what we eat.
Listen even in my young age it hasn’t been easy, I have had to learn the hard way when I thought I knew quite enough to move on and I have had to cry too many times for love or a broken heart or betrayal and yes I am human so when I get those moments of heartbreak, betrayal, disappointment I do cry, I cry so bad, I cry it all out and don’t stop the tears but after all that i clear my head, and pick up the pieces if it’s possible, if it’s not I find positivity and move.
Unrequited love or not being appreciated is hard, it’s a hard pill but don’t change your perspective of positivity, yes the moment it would be the horrible time of your life but after mourning not getting your love returned or being not appreciated especially from your loved one, YOU JUST HAVE TO MOVE ON.HARD AS IT IS, YOU HAVE TO MOVE…..
My name is LAURA and I share emotions on this blog……..

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

A Woman's Self Worth

A Woman's Self Worth
I came across this write up on someone’s page on facebook and I thought: “THIS ONE FOR THE SISTERS”
By George Sebastian

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:

'What kind of man are you looking for?'

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,
'Do you really want to know?'

Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.

She began to expound, '
As a woman in this day & age,
I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?

I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man...
or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, '
I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.

I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me.

He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.

She replied, "I'm worth a lot"

To all the Men In Our Lives, WE ARE WORTH ASKING FOR ALOT!

Thanks George…..